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With the biggest smile, my seven year old daughter looked at me and said, “I did it. That’s what happens when you try. I didn’t think I could read it, but I did!”

The back story. She sat down on my lap and wanted to read a book she had in her hand, but she said she couldn’t read it. I simply replied, “what if you tried.”

… and well, she read the entire book.

Make sure to thank her for this gold nugget episode.

What if you tried? What if you went for it?

Quick question, did you get excited about going for it, or did that idea make you shrink up thinking, “ but what if I fail?”

The truth is, you could “fail” – note the quotations. ADD A FUNNY GIF OF THE AIR QUOTES

Just like Emery deciding to try to read this book, she started out shaky and stumbled on a few words, feeling a little unsure. But then she started to get the hang of it, and found a rhythm.

It’s the same for you. As you start to move toward you vision/business/goals you gain CONFIDENCE along the way and then it all starts to unfold in front of you!

All because you tried.

We need to talk about the idea of “failing” because I think it is keeping us trapped. Believe me, I have lived this afraid of failure cycle for years. It has held me back, and a topic I had to work on while I was working on my about me page on my website.

I sat on my couch as I looked back over the last 10 years and wondered why anyone would want to be coached by me…. a failure. You can read more about it here ((LINK ABOUT ME))….

As I wrote the outline for this episode, I decided to look up the word fail because I am learning how much power words hold. If I was going to be throwing this word around, I wanted to know what it meant.

fail intransitive verb To prove deficient or lacking; perform ineffectively or inadequately. To be unsuccessful. To be unsuccessful in being acted upon.

When I read the words, “to be unsuccessful,” I had all sorts of inner alarms going off, and wanted to explore this part deeper. When it comes to being afraid of failing this idea of being unsuccessful comes up.

The idea of being afraid to fail meant to be afraid of being unsuccessful, well then, I had to ask myself what is success, and how do I define success?!

This is the best part about becoming a coach because I actually use the same tools I use for my clients, and one of them is how do you define success?? Let me tell you something, success really does look different for everyone!

So many times we define our success based on what Instagram user XO1456754321’s life looks like, but it is really important to get clear on what success looks like for you.

So are you afraid of failing or do you just not have a clear picture of what you want? Part of knowing what you want is trying. How are you supposed to know what you want if you don’t try something?

As we work through the tools from the DREAM method surrounding success, what we start to uncover are limiting beliefs, which we get to explore them so we can start to make the shifts you need to create a life you love to show up for.

You aren’t failing. Failing is quitting. Failing is no longer showing up.

You are trying, and if you are listening to this gold nugget episode right now, you are showing up.

One thing to remember, when you start something new it’s having grace with yourself because you will be shaky! It’s just like me launching this website and recording these first episodes for Hey, Lacie Jaye!

In the episode I share one of my favorite practices called, “seven layers of why” to help you define what success is to you.

This simple practice can create so much clarity. In fact, I just sat down recently to uncover why I care so much about helping women trust themselves. It ended up being so much deeper than I could have imagined.

I went from I want to help women trust themselves to…

It’s time you confidently walk around with a clear vision knowing your light radiates, your voice matters, and the dream inside you is yours to cultivate and bring to life.

…which then lead to a download for a group coaching program I plan on launching!

Anways, that is all I have for you today! I would love to hear what came up for you from this episode. You can tag me on social heylaciejaye so I can cheer you on, or you can even leave me a voice message which is so fun!!

Ready to confidently walk around with a clear vision knowing your light radiates, your voice matters, and the dream inside you is yours to cultivate and bring to life! Let’s hop on a call together!!

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